Writing a thank you note shows the person who took the time to think of you and give you a gift that you value their time. When someone goes out of their way to handwrite a note in our technology driven world, it is memorable.

If you are reading this, then you are most likely writing a thank you note.  Thank you for keeping this tradition alive. 

Sending a thank you note is NOT a thing of the past! Writing thank you notes is still something that people do AND thank you notes are very much appreciated.

Below are 5 sample thank you notes to help you get started.

Dear Meg and Liam,
Thank you for the aroma diffuser. It not only makes my apartment smell great, but it’s so pretty - - a true art piece on its own. Paris is beautiful this time of year so I know you will have the best time. You both have to come over and tell me all about your trip and to see how calming and Zen like my place feels with the diffuser. Best wishes, Penny Parker

Dear Aunt Julie,
Thank you for the warm scarf you sent to me. The fact that you made it yourself makes it even more special. It’s currently 2° here in New York and will be even colder by New Year’s Eve. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness, as well as your talent for knitting!
XOXO Katie

Dear Mom and Dad,
Thank you for being so thoughtful and thinking of me as I buy my first home. Your kind gift will be used wisely during this process. I am looking forward to 2018 and I hope it is a wonderful year for us all. Owning my own home has always been a dream and I can’t wait to share it with you. Thanks again, Miles

Dear Gram and Pops,
Thank you for sending me the complete DVD collection of Game of Thrones. This is my favorite show, so it was a wonderful Christmas gift. I hope you enjoy spending the New Year in Jackson Hole. I am already on Season 4 and plan on finishing the entire series over New Years!
Love, Benjamin

Dear Sean,
Thank you for the stunning terrarium. It is such a great conversation piece for my office. Your green thumb has always inspired me to love plants. Please stop by in the New Year to see how beautiful the succulents are.
Kind regards, Amelia Williams

See how easy that is?

We follow this simple four sentence format which is just the perfect amount to fit on a correspondence card or folder over.

• First Sentence – Says thank you for the gift
• Second Sentence – Says something about the gift
• Third Sentence – Says something unrelated to the gift
• Fourth Sentence – Says something about the gift

Don't forget to . . .

⇒ Sign on and Sign Off

⇒ Write clearly

⇒ Date it (bottom left-hand corner)

⇒ Proofread

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Writing thank-you notes and addressing envelopes is an area that we always seem to get a lot of questions about.  Here are a few pointers to help you brush up on your skills!

Thank-you Notes

Thank-you notes are typically written on fold-over notes or correspondence cards. Each of these pieces of stationery is meant to carry short messages, so a quick four-sentence thank you fits perfectly.
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There is no doubt that technology has made communication much easier. However, thank you notes should not be written in text messages and on Facebook.

If you need to thank someone then make some effort!

Technological advancements, the evolvement of the family, and different roles for men and women have all contributed to changes in etiquette rules. Test your knowledge below.

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1. Thank you notes should always be handwritten. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]ON-POINT.  Email and texting does not count when it comes to thank-you notes. 

They should be hand-written, follow the four-sentence rule, and be sent within one week of receiving a gift.


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2. Don’t wear white after Labor Day. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]OBSOLETE. In the early 1900s, there was a dress code for everything.  During summer months, formal dress relaxed a bit with white, light clothing. 

Now we wear what’s appropriate for the season, occasion and weather – which has to do more with fabric than color. [/toggle_framed]

3. Men should be courteous to women by holding doors or offering their seats. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]Both ON-POINT and OBSOLETE (a trick question!). 

Good etiquette is about respect, kindness and consideration, so we should all hold doors and give up seats for each other whenever possible.[/toggle_framed]

4. Wait to eat until your host or hostess begins the meal. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]ON-POINT.  Don’t begin eating until you see the host/hostess start. 

There could be a blessing or a few words to be shared - don’t get caught with your mouth full![/toggle_framed]

5. A bride’s family member should never host her shower. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]OBSOLETE.  This was considered rude because it suggested the bride’s family was requesting gifts. 

While it is still considered in poor taste for an engaged couple to hold their own shower, pretty much anyone else can do so.[/toggle_framed]

6. RSVP within a day or two of receiving an invitation. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]ON-POINT. 

Always reply in the manner requested on the invitation and within a few days of receipt (or by the deadline, at the very latest).[/toggle_framed]

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7. A gentleman should always remove his hat indoors. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]OBSOLETE. Today men wear hats in public, but never at the dinner table, in a place of worship (unless it is part of ritual dress), or in a theater.

Of course, no hats when the national anthem is playing or the US flag is passing by.[/toggle_framed]

8. Bring a hostess gift when invited to a casual dinner party. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]ON-POINT.  It’s always a nice idea to thank your hostess for her hospitality. 

It does not need to be expensive or elaborate - just a simple sign of appreciation such as fresh flowers (in a vase), a potted plant, a scented candle or a packaged gourmet food item.[/toggle_framed]

9. When a man and woman dine out together, the man should pay the bill. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]OBSOLETE.  It’s fairly obvious that this no longer applies, yet it can still cause difficulty. 

The simple rule of thumb is whoever invites, pays. This goes for business or pleasure. [/toggle_framed]


10. Put your napkin in your lap when you begin the meal, and to the left of your plate when you’re finished. [toggle_framed title="Answer"]ON-POINT. The meal starts and ends with the napkin.  It catches crumbs, wipes food from your face, and blocks sneezes and coughs. 

Place your napkin to the left of your plate when leaving the table or finishing your meal. [/toggle_framed]

How did you do?  Comment below!