When you live in the North and like to travel south to Florida in the winter, Atlanta is the perfect place to have friends.
I always chuckle when I read a “Dear Abby’ column about house guests who wreck the family schedule by staying too long, expecting to be entertained and use the family’s personal things without asking.
I’ve never experienced this scenario in our own home and I’ve always thought that nobody could be that bad, but my neighbor came over last night and shared how hard it had been to have ‘passing through’ house guests for a long weekend. They weren’t close friends, they were people they once lived near in another city and with whom they’d ‘loosely’ kept in touch. My neighbor and her husband both work full time and they have children in school, so they have limited time and keep a routine going. The long weekend turned out to be a marathon of meal preparing – breakfast, lunch and dinner. On the evening they did go out to dinner the house guests did not reach for the check. And on afternoon excursions they did not offer to pay for the parking or the admission to the museum or, or, or.... it kept going on. They helped themselves to things around the house, in the pantry, in the fridge – all before being offered. The straw that broke the camel’s back was the morning that my neighbor walked into her kitchen to find Mrs. LongAgoAndFarAway on the family laptop, which contained plenty of private information. Can you believe this behavior? And it happened next door – not in a newspaper column. So yes, people really can be that bad!
My Mom used to say “Fish begin to smell after 3 days”. That is a great gauge for people who stay in someone’s home. Leave before the visit begins to smell and you may well get asked back! Being a good house guest ...
...now that Makes Momma Happy!