Some people find Valentine's Day annoying. And, no, it's not just single people who may feel this way.
Like other holidays, Valentine's Day has become known as a consumer trap. Some people feel duped into buying a gift to prove their love for someone, or to fit in at the office or with friends they find far too sentimental.
Fear of not measuring up, or of not meeting someone's high expectations, can lead to incredible dread.
There's also the annoyance of politically-charged groups and other organizations urging us to show our love for certain causes on Valentine's Day. It's this type of spin on a day for celebrating romantic love that can make the whole thing seem pointless.
It's Only One Day
Valentine's Day is just that - one day out of the year. And if there's no way to escape the company of other people on this day, it may be necessary to equip yourself with some coping skills.
Fortunately, etiquette, emotional clarity, and a little organization, can help you get through it:
- Choose to give up old associations with Valentine's Day. Someone shared with me that she hates Valentine's Day because, as a child, her class made festive boxes for receiving Valentines. She never thought hers was as good as the others, and then she didn't receive cards from the people she most wanted to. If you have a similar story, it may be time to let it go.
- Plan ahead and curate ideas from others. If you know a friend or loved one has a Valentine's expectation, you may as well give in, even if it's in your own style.
- Think outside the (gift) box! There are all sorts of alternative ideas to inspire some creativity. Even a hand-written note tucked under a pillow can be just the right amount of sweetness.
- Play catch-up. Use the day to give something back. Perhaps someone invited you to dinner and you haven't reciprocated yet. You want to appreciate a client or seize the opportunity to express gratitude to a relative with a card or small gift. Gratitude is always in season!
Show Some Love
It's okay if Valentine's Day isn't your thing. It's even okay if you let the people closest to you know this. After all, you need to be you.
But understand that if your someone special loves Valentine's Day, a little compromise will make him or her feel even more appreciated by you.
And if you're single, there's nothing better than taking this day to show a little love to yourself by indulging in something that will make you feel special.
Candace Smith is a Dual Certified Graduate of The American School of Protocol's Etiquette Certification Training and the owner of Etiquette for the Business of Life