You wouldn't know it by the temperature outside, but it's already time for fall. Here at The American School of Protocol we are excited about the opportunities and new advances we have made this year.
As we get ready for crisper weather, we'd like to reflect on what we've accomplished and what the remaining part of the year will hold.
Congratulations are in order for the graduates of our February and July 2018 Children's and Corporate Etiquette Certification Training. Our worldwide graduates are transforming the lives of children and adults through The American School of Protocol's educational training and curriculum.
When looking for Etiquette Certification Training, we know that you have choices, online, one-on-one, and other companies who may or may not have multiple staff members. Graduating from The American School of Protocol means that you have received in-depth, hands-on training and will have access to resources and full-time support at no charge.
Our training and educational curriculum, paired with our passion to provide the very best, has helped our graduates reach their goals and touch the lives of so many. We continually update our certification manuals and curriculum, and strive to provide a transformational experience.
We look forward to meeting our new trainees and future graduates at the upcoming October Certification. Certification Cost $5,495. Click here to learn more about our October 2018 Certification Sessions
Thanks are also in order to the ASP Team's commitment to expanding program offerings that are relevant, marketable and transformative.
This year we introduced a new training program, Cultivating Character, a 1-Day Conference that offers opportunities for educators and entrepreneurs who would like to add a Character Education component to their educational services.
Our first Cultivating Character conference was held, August 17th in Atlanta, Georgia. The conference received high praise and reviews from attendees. This recognition affirms our commitment to always provide the highest caliber of training and teaching materials. Cultivating Character Cost $1,495. Next Cultivating Character Conference will be held September 14. Click Here to Learn More
Power, Presence & Style our 1-Day Business Etiquette Seminar continues to help business professionals gain confidence and increase their competitive edge.
The hands-on training day educates participants and provides them with useful and relevant information that will impact their daily communications. Cost $995. Next Class will be held October 22. Click Here to learn more
As we continue to build momentum and reach new goals, we invite you to join us in Atlanta to discover what it means to be a part of The American School of Protocol.
Together, we can transform lives and cultivate life-changing outcomes.
Smile. Flashing a smile can go a long way towards making someone else’s day brighter. Keep a mental reserve of your happiest, funniest moments that you can recall to put a smile on your face.
Leave a place in better condition than you found it. Challenge yourself to improve a public space. If you spot a piece of trash on the ground, be the person who takes the time to pick it up and throw it away. It’s an admirable thing to see someone inconvenience themselves in this way for the betterment of the entire community.
Arrive on time.If punctuality doesn’t come naturally, give yourself an additional 10-minute “emergency gap” to allow for last-minute activities. Create a playlist for your morning routine that is exactly as long as you have to get ready – it’s a fun way to keep yourself on track. But if you know you’re going to be late ahead of time, communicate this to your friends, coworkers, or host through a quick, apologetic call.
Make your commute a pleasant time.In Atlanta, we are all too familiar with traffic. It can be uninteresting as a routine part of your day, and downright enraging when unexpected traffic makes you late. Make the time a positive one for yourself. Find a podcast to listen to during the ride about a subject that interests you. Sing along with the radio and relieve your stress. Don’t forget to make the monotonous crawl a little bit better for others – let someone into your lane during your commute, give someone a wave or a smile, and be patient with slower drivers.
Express your compliments. If your waitress has a great hairstyle, make sure to tell her. If a man standing in line in front of you at the grocery store looks great in that shade of blue let him know. We all have these thoughts, but many of us neglect to share them. An impromptu compliment from a stranger is really memorable.
Improve your communicative style. Listen to others, and pay attention to your communication habits. If you tend to dominate the conversation, strive to ask your partner questions about themselves. If you find making small talk difficult, challenge yourself to hold quick chats with strangers during your day-to-day life.
While some customs from long ago have remained fixtures in our modern society, there are many that have faded into obscurity and for good reason. We have uncovered the explanations behind some of today’s common and strange customs that managed to stick around.
Dating back to Ancient Greece – a source of many modern Western customs – this greeting was a sign of equality and mutual respect.
Shaking hands replaced bows and curtsies, while also serving as proof that both parties came unarmed.
In medieval Europe, the handshake became a powerful symbol of the bond between husband and wife. It was the final gesture of wedding ceremonies.
Today, a hand shake can symbolize multiple things but mainly it is used to say hello, goodbye, congratulations, and to seal the deal.
“Achoooo. . . . God Bless you!”
It’s almost as much of a reflex as sneezing itself. Here in the United States, when someone sneezes, “God Bless you” will often be heard immediately after.
But why? We don’t acknowledge any other bodily functions in such a way. So how did this response originate?
Some point to the Greeks and Romans for starting this fascination with sneezing. They viewed it as a sign of wellness – a means of expelling bad spirits from the body – and would routinely offer blessings unto the sneezer.
Centuries later, widespread fears brought on by the outbreak of the bubonic plague cast suspicion on the sneeze. Pope Gregory VII called on the people of Europe to utter a short prayer, “Bless you”, after every sneeze to protect against the sickness.
Upon reflection, it is a very strange custom - - -that doesn't appear to be fading anytime soon.
Dining Styles - Continental or American Style Dining?
As all of The American School of Protocol’s Certified Graduates know, there is a stark difference in dining styles once you cross the Atlantic.
In the United States, “Zig-Zag” is used, while our European neighbors predominantly eat “Continental.”
It is very surprising to learn that the traditional European method was in fact originally the American style. The "dining style divide" resulted when British colonists sailed across the Atlantic, bringing their multi-step cutting method to the New World.
The colonists retained this dining style, but back in Europe, the Industrial Revolution brought a faster pace of life that left little room for the niceties and courtesies of the previous era, leading to the more streamlined Continental style.
After a toast, it is tradition to clink glasses with fellow diners. This iconic act of celebration comes from a dark past.
Clinking glasses originally started with the intention of spilling a little of the other person’s drink into your own to demonstrate that neither party had poisoned the other’s glass. The clink was a sign of good will, a feeling that has endured to today.
“Don’t put your elbows on the table!” The origin of this classic motherly saying dates back to medieval times.
Feasts were held in great halls and hundreds of people would eat together at long wooden tables. While the food was often plentiful, space was not.
Furthermore, when dining in the presence of the lords and ladies of the realm, it was deemed “peasant-like” to hunch over one’s plate, guarding the food from others. The act gave off an aura of distrust, and has since become a commonly repeated rule.
Today, it is acceptable to have your elbows on the dining table in between courses and when there are no dishes on the table. Other than that it's a good idea to follow this old rule.
It is truly interesting to trace our everyday behaviors – many of which we don’t give a second thought.
A recent article posted by The Conversation, an academic content website, listed 10 ways schools, parents, and communities can prevent school shootings now.
Number one on their list to combat this major problem is for schools and communities to teach social and emotional skills.
The article states that decrease in free play time and frequent social media use has reduced children’s opportunities to learn these basic social skills. Children should be learning these skills sets in school, but often times they are not.
As an etiquette and life skills educational company, The American School of Protocol, completely agrees that children need to learn life skills. However, we have found that during the school day is not when the majority of this learning takes place.
Many schools have completely eliminated character building classes and activities due to academic pressure and the need to meet certain benchmarks on state administered exams.
Studies have found that schools only try to implement a character building program, once it is too late or as a buffer to help solve an existing problem. Children spend more time at school and extracurricular activities than ever before. The lack of instruction from parents is now becoming more apparent.
Character Education, Etiquette, and Life Skills are all necessary to help formulate a balanced and socially compassionate child who can conduct themselves with confidence and consideration for others. Eliminating home economics, life skills and character building paired with our new digital era and lifestyle, qualified etiquette teachers are more in demand than ever before, but without instruction in the class room and etiquette teachers in the communities, the outlook for the future of our youth is grim.
After every tragic event our requests, internet searches and calls soar. We also hear from individuals around the world who have the same problem. The American School of Protocol’s goal is for every state and city across the United States to have a knowledgeable etiquette teacher who is offering classes to students of all ages.
We continually find underqualified and inexperienced instructors who want to help, but just aren’t accomplishing their goals. Etiquette is an unregulated industry. This is why it is so easy for other companies to market and sell certificates and programs that don’t teach the information correctly or address the real issues.
To parents, educators, entrepreneurs, we need you to step up and bring etiquette to your community. If this has been on the back burner, we encourage you to lay out your goals and make it happen. Now is the time!
1 Exhibit A Warm And Friendly Demeanor- No matter how bad a day you are having it is important to always be warm and friendly to others. This makes for friendlier interactions and can brighten someone’s day.
2 Look People in the Eyes – Stop staring at your phone and look up. It seems like it should be the easiest one to accomplish, however these little things called cell phone are making eye contact almost near impossible today.
3 Use Proper Table Manners At Every Meal – Whether it be an informal dinner party or a business event, always remember your table manners.
4 Dress Appropriately – Always dress for the occasion, remember that overdressing is always better than under dressing.
5 Hold Doors Open – Before entering and exiting a building always look in front and behind you to see if there is anyone that could use a helping hand.
6 Say Please & Thank You – Remembering the basic please and thank you can make all the difference. These simple words show gratitude and appreciation and are never underrated.
7 Let Other Cars Merge In – Driving can be stressful for many people, letting a car merge in can help move along traffic and improve someone’s day. Whether it is a car from out of town or your daily rush hour, everyone appreciates being let in.
8 Keep Your Unnecessary Comments to Yourself – Being malicious and embarrassing someone is simply rude and poor etiquette. Always be mindful and think before you speak.
9 Not Talking Loudly – Talking too loudly when you are out in public is not only disruptive but an annoyance to everyone around. Sadly, many people think because they are using a bluetooth device that they can go anywhere and continue their conversation.
10 Treat Others With Respect – The age-old saying of “treat others how you want to be treated” reigns supreme. In order to get respect, a person must first show respect.
Both near and far, in massive numbers or individually, tragedy and death often find us unprepared and unsure of how to approach the situation.
Things You Should Never Say to Someone Who Is Grieving
I know how you feel. Even if you have suffered a similar loss or are currently grieving yourself, every experience is unique, just as every relationship is unique.
Everything happens for a reason. This could not be true according to the griever’s spiritual beliefs.
Time heals all wounds. People who have suffered the loss of a loved one often report that their life is permanently altered.
Be glad for the time you had together. Someone who is grieving will most likely cherish the memories of their loved one and be heartbroken at their loss, all at the same time. They are not mutually exclusive.
At least he/she is no longer suffering. The fact that terrible physical suffering has ended in the death of their loved one is often not comforting to the bereaved.
Remain strong for others. This suggests that the griever should hide their feelings or try to appear as if they are not suffering. Neither is a healthy approach to the natural process of grief.
What You Can Do
Open up. Share your thoughts and feelings with a trusted friend or family member to relieve the stress. Tread carefully when doing so in a professional setting.
Listen to others. Try to empathize with others and allow them to express themselves as needed. Recognize that processing tragedy is stressful and can cause people to act differently than normal.
Seek joy. Do things that you enjoy, such as cooking, gardening or exercising. Pick up a new book, attend a sporting event, go to a concert or plan a weekend getaway.
Protect yourself. Limit your exposure to dire reports by avoiding broadcasts on TV or your smartphone. Less is more when the media is focused on gruesome details.
Serve others. Change your focus by getting involved in a community-building event, organizing a service day, or supporting a non-profit fundraiser.
Tragic situations befalling those we know or those being reported on the news can make us uncomfortable and cause stress. Awareness of certain coping techniques and specific phrases to avoid can ease anxiety and allow us to support others in their time of need. Remember to always consider your audience and setting before discussing.
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The centuries old pattern of ‘going into retirement at a certain age’ is fading away - - - and it’s for a good reason. Doctors around the world are now saying that instead of heading into retirement, you are better off staying in work to keep physically and mentally active.
Instead of facing retirement without a plan, many are embarking on this new chapter of their lives by reinventing themselves. Searching for a new career path, starting a business, making your hobby profitable, these are challenges that ex-retirees are finding exciting and purposeful.
After retirement many succumb to loneliness, isolation and health deterioration. With all the recent studies we know that going into auto-pilot, drifting without purpose only gets you one place fast.
The AARP Bulletin recently searched out ordinary people who have done extraordinary things with their second careers. They discovered that 40 percent of people working at age 62 had changed careers since they turned 55. We found this article to align with many of the individuals who attend The American School of Protocol’s Etiquette Certification Training.
President and Founder of The American School of Protocol, Peggy Newfield says, “Seventy percent of the trainees who attend our program are planning for their second career. They are utilizing their new found freedom after retirement as a way to not only keep themselves busy, but also an avenue to give back.”
According to Newfield, “With over 800 certified graduates, I have found that careers can take off at any age. There is only one ingredient that has to be there: PASSION.”
During The American School of Protocol’s five day training program trainees learn how to set up an etiquette consulting and teaching business. Through hands-on tutorials, small sessions, and class discussion each graduate leaves feeling empowered and ready to set out on their new career path.
“ASP’s proven outline and ongoing support is the roadmap to success” says Martha Berge who graduated from the program in 2015. After retiring Berge found herself bored and in need of stimulating work.
“After working as a marketing executive for 35 years I was not ready to just lounge around. I needed a purpose.”
Berge is now using the skill set she learned during Etiquette Certification Training to reach out to her community. She is a keynote speaker once a month at rotary meetings and has a set evening every week where she answers etiquette questions at her local country club.
With 15 grandchildren Berge also makes it a point to personally teach her grandchildren. “They find my sessions to be fun and truly look forward to it.”
Berge says the experience and skill set that she gained during the 5-Day Certification training has empowered her. She now feels more connected to her family and community than ever before.
“My children and grandchildren call me to ask etiquette questions. I have been asked to attend a local high school job fair and speak to the students about interview skills and how to land the job. The opportunities seems endless.”
Newfield, who founded The American School of Protocol in 1980 strongly believes that those heading into retirement need to plan for this new chapter of their lives.
“Keeping your mind busy improves your chances of staying healthier longer. It’s a fact. Instead of focusing on ‘retirement’ we need to start thinking about what to do next.”
Newfield strongly states, "You are still here and have something to offer. Don’t sit around and waste your time lunching and shopping. Make yourself useful and do something you will be proud of."
To Learn more about The American School of Protocol’s Certification Training that is helping to launch second careers all over the world click here.
Writing a thank you note shows the person who took the time to think of you and give you a gift that you value their time. When someone goes out of their way to handwrite a note in our technology driven world, it is memorable.
If you are reading this, then you are most likely writing a thank you note. Thank you for keeping this tradition alive.
Sending a thank you note is NOT a thing of the past! Writing thank you notes is still something that people do AND thank you notes are very much appreciated.
Below are 5 sample thank you notes to help you get started.
Dear Meg and Liam,
Thank you for the aroma diffuser. It not only makes my apartment smell great, but it’s so pretty - - a true art piece on its own. Paris is beautiful this time of year so I know you will have the best time. You both have to come over and tell me all about your trip and to see how calming and Zen like my place feels with the diffuser. Best wishes, Penny Parker
Dear Aunt Julie,
Thank you for the warm scarf you sent to me. The fact that you made it yourself makes it even more special. It’s currently 2° here in New York and will be even colder by New Year’s Eve. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness, as well as your talent for knitting!
Dear Mom and Dad,
Thank you for being so thoughtful and thinking of me as I buy my first home. Your kind gift will be used wisely during this process. I am looking forward to 2018 and I hope it is a wonderful year for us all. Owning my own home has always been a dream and I can’t wait to share it with you. Thanks again, Miles
Dear Gram and Pops,
Thank you for sending me the complete DVD collection of Game of Thrones. This is my favorite show, so it was a wonderful Christmas gift. I hope you enjoy spending the New Year in Jackson Hole. I am already on Season 4 and plan on finishing the entire series over New Years!
Thank you for the stunning terrarium. It is such a great conversation piece for my office. Your green thumb has always inspired me to love plants. Please stop by in the New Year to see how beautiful the succulents are.
Kind regards, Amelia Williams
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We follow this simple four sentence format which is just the perfect amount to fit on a correspondence card or folder over.
• First Sentence – Says thank you for the gift
• Second Sentence – Says something about the gift
• Third Sentence – Says something unrelated to the gift
• Fourth Sentence – Says something about the gift
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