With the current climate in our world and the recent breaking news stories of inappropriate sexual behavior in all industries across the nation, you would think that we live in a world without rules, respect, manners or morals.
Reading through the headlines it is truly evident that respect and manners have been pushed to the side. It is only when horrible behavior is brought to the mass media do we have the opportunity to see something we are aware of on a small scale in high definition, morning and night and on every platform.
Is our culture so unattached and disconnected that we have forgotten about moral upbringing or human decency? What has happened?
Certain components of our modern existence threaten the development and enforcement of these rules which have helped hold our communities together. As we have evolved it is understandable that so has the perception of what is considered “acceptable behavior”.
Yes, we have been liberated from appalling laws and useless rules of the past, but now we are faced with the repercussions of our progression.
Without focused cultivation of teaching and enforcing respect and equality within our workplace, schools, homes, and communities, the civility born of etiquette could indeed become a thing of the past.
It is only when enough people stand together and decide that enough is enough and that it is time for a change that something can be done.
Please stand with us in our battle to help instill the traits that make our society kind and compassionate human beings.
Since the Month of April begins with the 1st day dedicated to the festivity of lies aka, “April Fool’s Day”, why not end the month on a higher note and celebrate April 30th as National Honesty Day? This is exactly why M. Hirsh Goldberg, the creator of this day decided after researching and then writing The Book of Lies.
The best way to celebrate National Honesty Day is to be completely open and honest. The only rule for this day is quite simple - be honest.
We thought we would provide you with a few tips on ways to ensure you are living an honest life every day.
Look Inside: Starting with introspection is the best place to begin living an honest life. Do you live your life based on a façade that you want others to believe instead of who you really are? By being honest with yourself you take away pressure and a heavy weight that has been holding you down.
We all know the tale about “the boy who cried wolf.” Then when a wolf did appear, no one believed him. If we want people to believe us when it’s important, then we need to be honest all of the time – starting with ourselves.
Surround Yourself with Honest People: Time to kick those toxic friends to the curb. If your friends are stressful to be around and plague you with dishonesty, it is time to reevaluate those relationships.
Follow the Leader: Whether you are in a traffic line or at the grocery store, don’t be the person who purposely cuts in line because you didn’t want to wait. Be honest and stay in your place in line. Patience always pays off.
Small Items: While it can be tempting to keep the extra change the clerk accidentally gave you, keeping that change is stealing. That is someone’s hard earned money. Do the right thing.
Finders Keepers: Sometimes we all have that “lucky day” when we find money or an item of value in the park or on the street. Please try and return a lost item to the rightful owner if possible. Social media sites are a great way to locate someone and share that you have found an item that you know the owner will be missing.
The news today is filled with story upon story about people who didn’t do the right thing. Most of the news connects back to others being dishonest. Next time you are faced with a decision of whether to do what’s right or the latter, remember that honesty makes the person, as William Shakespeare once said, “Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself.”
We are also living in a time where technology lets us off the hook. If we forget an appointment, we can blame it on "the email I never received".
Technology is meant to enhance communication, not diminish etiquette. Here are a few tips that will keep technology from damaging your relationships and credibility.
Running Late- Occasionally there will be a time we will run late due to an unforeseen circumstance. Today people are using technology to let others know they are not on time. This can be through a text message, email or even social media. Technology has made it possible for people to get into a habit of running late simply because they know they can send a quick text. The correct thing to do is to pick up the phone and call to inform the other person that you are running behind, not to rely on any form of technology to pass along that message.
Cancelling- With over 6.8 billion cell phone subscriptions in the world, using technology as a scapegoat is now easier than ever. Technology has made it easy to ignore others and to not feel badly about cancelling plans. If you need to cancel plans, call the person as soon as possible. Whether or not you are meeting one person or a large group, if you must cancel, do it in advance... not showing up without a reason is unacceptable.
No Response- Have you ever heard someone say "Oh I didn't receive your message?" Well then, you have just been caught in the midst of:
Technology has enabled us to give an extremely delayed response or sometimes no response at all. If someone reaches out to you, please respond to them within a timely manner. If you are sending a message of high importance and you do not hear back from the person, a follow up message or phone call is due on your part. We should not automatically think that the person is blatantly ignoring the message.
Lost Art of RSVP- To email or text an RSVP instead of filling out the card sent to you is so rude. If someone takes the time to send you an invitation and they request a specific RSVP, then you need to respond in kind.
Delivering Bad News- Although a text message or email may be the easiest way to deliver bad news, it is not the correct way. Instead of sending out a mass message about a grievance, pick up the phone and call the individuals. Hearing the sound of your voice can make a huge difference.
Dishonesty- While technology has made it easier to cancel plans, it has also made some of us dishonest. If you have to cancel plans be upfront about it instead of making up an excuse. It is not ok to cancel plans and then use social media to show you at another event because you found it more "fun" than your original plans. Please consider the other person's feelings.
Technology is here to stay. It is our job to figure out how to use these forms of communication without letting them damage our relationships. One of the best ways to not let technology damage your relationships is to stick to your word. If you commit to being somewhere at a certain time, then be there.
As we begin the transition into fall, the inviting weather draws everyone outside. With the large amount of people on trails, hiking, and enjoying the outdoors, it’s important to respect others around you while working out. Here are a few reminders on how to maintain courtesy to others when hitting the trail.
Greeting Others- It is inevitable that you will pass people on trails and while exercising. When seeing others, it is polite to extend a brief “hello” and send a smile. This shows that you acknowledged their passing and serves as a friendly gesture. Mot people working out are strictly there for the purpose of exercising and not to make long conversation.
Make Others Aware- If you are biking or running always make sure you announce yourself to the people in front of you to ensure that they move aside and avoid running into you.
Do Your “Doo-ty”- There’s nothing more enjoyable than bringing man’s best friend along for a walk, however a walk can quickly be ruined by an unsettling smell from our furry friends. Make sure you always bring little baggies with you and pick up after your pet.
The “Right” Rule - The same rule of driving on the right side of the road applies when you are walking or running on trails. If you are walking in a largely populated area always make sure to stay towards the right to allow runners or bikers to pass you more easily.
Yielding- If you are going to take a long pause on a walking path, make sure to move yourself to the side to yield for others. We all know how annoying and unbecoming it is to have to dodge people talking in the middle of a walkway.
Avoid Littering- Trashcans can be few and far between however it is important to always throw away your trash. Even if you see others trash on the ground be a team player for the environment and your community and pick it up and throw it away.
Group Walking- Walking in a group tends to take up more space on a path. If you are a member of a group and you see people approaching to pass you, walk single file or double up depending on the size of the path. Always share the walkway to allow people to move by with ease.
Prepare for Dusk/ Dawn- Sometimes taking a run in the early morning or late at night is more convenient for a person. If you are going to work out at dusk or dawn always wear reflective clothing or reflectors. Not only does this keep you safe it also keeps other people safe. Drivers depend on reflective gear to be aware of pedestrians, always make sure you are prepared to ensure safety for everyone.
We all want people to be encouraged to maintain a healthy lifestyle and enjoy working out. Keep these tips in mind next time you are exercising outdoors to ensure that everyone has a pleasant experience.