Summer is right around the corner which means June through October begins the biggest wedding season. Here is a list of Do’s and Don’ts on how to be a great wedding guest.
1. Do RSVP: When you receive a wedding invitation, always respond by the deadline with whether or not you will attend. The RSVP’s are time sensitive because the bride and groom or their families plan catering and seating around the attendance. RSVP’s = Money.
2. Don’t Keep Your Phone On: Before the ceremony begins, do a quick check to make sure that your phone is on silent and will not cause any disruptions. You do not want to be the person responsible for having your phone ring as the bride walks down the aisle or the happy couple is saying their vows.
3. Do be Early: Arrive 20-30 minutes ahead of the scheduled start time to make sure that you have a seat. Weddings are meant to start on time and it is rude to disrupt the festivities by coming in late.
4. Don’t Assume a Plus One: Some couples have a strict budget and it is not possible for them to let their attendees bring guests. You will always know whether you can bring a guest or your children by the way the invitation envelope is address. Unless the invitation specifies that you may bring a date never assume that you can. Remember your envelope tells all. Please don’t call the bride and groom and ask them if it’s ok for you to bring someone. That puts them on the spot. Extra guests add to the party cost.
5. Do Follow Dress Code: If the invitation specifies black tie then a man wears a tuxedo and a woman may wear a long gown. If the wedding is in the evening, and black tie is not specified, then a man wears a dark suit and a woman wears a cocktail dress or basic black, decorated with rhinestone earrings. The location of the wedding (picnic, beach, bowling alley) will always add clues to what you need to wear.
6. Don’t Get Wasted: Many weddings have a variety of cocktails and an open bar. Even though there is an endless amount of booze be careful and think before you drink in excess. You do not want to do or say anything that you would regret the next day. Have a great time and let loose but make sure that your thoughts and head are clear.
7. Don’t Talk Forever: This a very busy day for the wedding couple. Everyone at the wedding is there to celebrate them. Congratulate the wedding couple and then move on . . . they have many other guests and family members to attend to.
The next time you are an invited guest at a wedding, remember that even though the day is about the wedding party, YOU still play a vital role.
Dress for the Occasion- Always make sure you are appropriately dressed for the occasion, there is nothing worse than standing out… in a bad way. It is always better to be overdressed then underdressed. You can always take off pieces and dress down if you are overdressed; unfortunately if you are underdressed you cannot dress it up. If you receive an invitation with a specific dress code, always follow it. It is rude to blatantly ignore a specific dressing request for an event.
Faux Pas- There is a certain time and place for everything. Although we live in a more casual society, it is important that we avoid being too casual and stick to a polished look. These rules apply to business as well as business casual.
Point of Focus- Every outfit needs one focal point whether it is a colorful blouse, tie, blazer, dress, or accessory. No matter what focal point you choose for an outfit, make sure that the pieces you wear surrounding that focal piece are complementary. If you wear something with a bright pattern the other items can be softer and non-distracting from the focal point. Avoid wearing too many accessories at once. Too many pieces can create a disorganized and chaotic look.
Think about these tips when getting ready for business events. Know the occasion and dress accordingly.